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JJ Barnes

JJ Barnes writes about parenting, feminism, current affairs and writing

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Why I think “Just be kind” is terrible advice.

If you’ve been present on any social media platforms, I’m sure you’ve seen the meme in various forms going round that reminds you that everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about, so to always be kind. On the one hand, this is completely beautiful advice. I’ve been open about my own struggles with anxiety, and I know that

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Why are adults stripping for children, and why are we not stopping them?

I don’t think of myself as being particularly prudish. I am pretty open minded. I believe we should all love who we love, express ourselves however we feel comfortable, where clothes we like regardless of who they’re targeted and, and as long as you’re happy and safe, crack on. However, recently a couple of videos on Twitter have made me

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When did threatening women with violence go from broke to woke?

Twitter trends come and go, whether it’s sharing make-up free selfies, favourite films or books, or sharing your experiences of your abortions with anti abortion politicians. Every so often, a tweet pattern will catch on, we’ll get a flurry of people repeating it with their own variations, and then it’ll die again. And, for the most part, these are pretty

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We need to look at the language used in the Epstein child rape reporting.

With the Jeffrey Epstein case in full swing, the way his crimes are reported is something I’m noticing more and more. If, for some reason, you are not familiar with the case, here’s a quick catch up. Jeffrey Epstein was a financier who had connections with several high profile people, including President Donald Trump, former President Bill Clinton, actors such

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We should end gender stereotyping by getting rid of labels, not adding new ones.

I’ve written before about raising my children without gender stereotypes, letting them be free to explore the world without the pressure of working out if things are for boys or girls, and whether that should change what they do. Gender stereotypes are damaging to children. When children are raised to conform to stereotypes they miss out on experiences that matter,

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Dead rats nailed to walls and public condemnation of rape crisis centres is a devastating sign of the times.

Rape crisis centres are essential. They are a place where women can go in times of the worst crisis for support, protection and shelter. They are run by people who are setting their lives apart to help others. And they’re under attack. To attack a rape crisis centre, in my opinion, makes you an absolute monster. To see people doing

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My first political protest march and democracy not being a spectator sport.

I had never been on a political protest march before yesterday. There’s been causes I’ve believed in, terrible things I’ve wanted to protest again, but I had never actually marched. I wouldn’t feel safe taking my children to a march. Some would blame this on inexperience, and several children were in the crowd, but having now marched I still wouldn’t

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Why are we so entitled and selfish that we won’t make space to accommodate people with disabilities without a fight?

I wrote recently about privileges and my own experiences with male privilege, white privilege and class privilege. But I only touched on able-bodied privilege. But able-bodied privilege is something I benefit from every day. It is something I haven’t earned, something I haven’t fought for. And it seems to be something so many of us want to fight to keep,

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Mixed sex facilities, safe spaces, and the girls who get hurt because “it’ll never happen”.

As gender-neutral, mixed sex, facilities that are considered to be “safe spaces” become the new trend, the women who fight against it are being gas lit continually. We are told that fears these open rules will allow men to violate women’s privacy and put women in physical danger are crazy, and that it’ll never happen. It’ll never happen. I wrote

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Unquestioning Acceptance As The Opposite Of Bigotry, and The Rise In Wrongthink.

We live in the most progressive and accepting era of our times. Our rights to love and speak and feel our truths are protected. We celebrate diversity in identity, in sexuality and in opinion. Except you. You’re a bigot. Whilst we live in a free time, we seem to be protecting one area of our freedoms by sacrificing others without