JJ Barnes

JJ Barnes writes about parenting, feminism, current affairs and writing

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What writing a book with my step-son means to me.

My little patchwork family is made up of myself and my partner, my daughter from my first marriage, his son from his first marriage, and our tyrannical toddler who came along 9 months after my 30th birthday… We’ve been a family for five years now. I’ve looked after my step-son for at least part of nearly every single day since

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We should expect men to be good fathers, but society is set up to enable bad ones.

Watching women do the lion’s share of the parenting is unremarkable. In heterosexual relationships, the mother is more likely to have the most active role in child rearing, and in the UK it’s estimated that one in four children are being raised in single parent households, with 90% of those headed by women (BBC). I firmly believe in the power

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Sometimes I Don’t Want To Be A Mother Anymore

Some people are natural parents. People who give off an aura that says they’re good with children, even if they’re alone or don’t have kids. My best friends are natural mothers. They’re amazing with their own children, and brilliant with other people’s too. They’re so natural with children they have opted to work with them as well as to raise

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What we should learn about consent from Jessica Yaniv’s testicles.

If you’re unfamiliar with the Jessica Yaniv case, I’ll give you a brief history. But if you want to find out more it’ll be pretty easy, Yaniv and her testicles are all across the internet. Jessica Yaniv wanted to get her body hair waxed, including a full Brazilian, and for Yaniv that means all around the penis and balls. Yaniv

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Why nothing makes me feel less liberal than the concept of “kink shaming”.

I’ve always considered myself a lefty liberal. I have gone through life hating judgmental people and embracing the move towards a progressive and accepting society. We should all be free to be true to ourselves, to love who we love, and accept everyone for their truth. And I do feel we should be proud of what we’ve achieved. I still

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I’m against gender neutral public toilets, and this is why.

The introduction of gender neutral facilities, including toilets and changing rooms, is becoming a staple display of progressive liberalism in 2019. If you want to be woke, do away with sex segregation and stick a “We don’t care” sign on your toilet door. As being progressive and inclusive and “woke” is what we are all supposed to be these days,

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What is gender neutral parenting, and why would you do it?

I am raising my children to be “gender neutral”. This is a concept that is often widely scorned, and I think I understand why, but I also think it’s a misunderstanding. I’m not raising my children to be neither a boy nor a girl, I’m raising my children to be who they are regardless of whether they’re a boy or

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Am I risking my daughter’s safety to help her follow her dream?

Sometimes our children will love things and want things that we know are bad for them. We guide them, advise them, keep them as safe as possible because we love them and its our job. But what if they want something that is good for them in so many ways, but carries a risk that makes you feel sick. What

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Returning to the Bloggersphere

I began blogging in 2012, right after the birth of my first daughter. Whilst I had technically been writing both articles and stories for many years before the blog, my audience had been almost entirely made up of my mother. Writing a blog was the first time I truly felt like I could call myself a writer. I was finally