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JJ Barnes

JJ Barnes writes about parenting, feminism, current affairs and writing

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Why I think we should stop telling children “I want doesn’t get.”

I want doesn’t get is a standard statement used when children say “I want” something. Recently we were in a charity shop, killing a bit of time before school pick up as we were early, and we were letting our three year old explore. She was very excited by all the cheap toys, but came across an enormous fluffy pink

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Why are adults stripping for children, and why are we not stopping them?

I don’t think of myself as being particularly prudish. I am pretty open minded. I believe we should all love who we love, express ourselves however we feel comfortable, where clothes we like regardless of who they’re targeted and, and as long as you’re happy and safe, crack on. However, recently a couple of videos on Twitter have made me

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The lies I told myself about the lies I’d never tell my children.

Yesterday my six year old daughter lost her first tooth. This is a significant event in a child’s life and she’d been watching her friends lose teeth over the last year with envy. To finally lose her first tooth was very exciting for her. It would be her first visit from the Tooth Fairy! “Mummy,” she said to me with

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We should expect men to be good fathers, but society is set up to enable bad ones.

Watching women do the lion’s share of the parenting is unremarkable. In heterosexual relationships, the mother is more likely to have the most active role in child rearing, and in the UK it’s estimated that one in four children are being raised in single parent households, with 90% of those headed by women (BBC). I firmly believe in the power

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Sometimes I Don’t Want To Be A Mother Anymore

Some people are natural parents. People who give off an aura that says they’re good with children, even if they’re alone or don’t have kids. My best friends are natural mothers. They’re amazing with their own children, and brilliant with other people’s too. They’re so natural with children they have opted to work with them as well as to raise

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What is gender neutral parenting, and why would you do it?

I am raising my children to be “gender neutral”. This is a concept that is often widely scorned, and I think I understand why, but I also think it’s a misunderstanding. I’m not raising my children to be neither a boy nor a girl, I’m raising my children to be who they are regardless of whether they’re a boy or