JJ Barnes

JJ Barnes writes about parenting, feminism, current affairs and writing

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Why I believe in the importance of recognising privilege.

The idea of privilege is pretty trendy right now. Male privilege, white privilege, class privilege. On one side it’s pretty easy to accuse someone of having one of these things as a way of discounting their accomplishments as being merely a product of their privilege. And on the other side, people are accused of victimising themselves by blaming the privilege

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How our culture sexualises teenage girls to the point of devaluing everything else about them.

It’s a disturbing fact that our society sexualises teenage girls to the point of valuing little else about them. I remember when I became a teenager and suddenly fell onto a radar for men to ogle, shout at, and pester to the point of being dangerous. I remember realising my growing body suddenly had value for it’s sexuality. I also

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I know I’m a bad feminist, but why doing what we can is enough.

I consider myself to be a feminist. I recognise the sex based oppression that women and girls have suffered internationally for generations. FGM, child marriages, forced pregnancy, rape rates, sex trafficking. Being born female can be a death sentence, it can be a life sentence for pain and abuse, and I want to work to support the women around me

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Unquestioning Acceptance As The Opposite Of Bigotry, and The Rise In Wrongthink.

We live in the most progressive and accepting era of our times. Our rights to love and speak and feel our truths are protected. We celebrate diversity in identity, in sexuality and in opinion. Except you. You’re a bigot. Whilst we live in a free time, we seem to be protecting one area of our freedoms by sacrificing others without

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What we should learn about consent from Jessica Yaniv’s testicles.

If you’re unfamiliar with the Jessica Yaniv case, I’ll give you a brief history. But if you want to find out more it’ll be pretty easy, Yaniv and her testicles are all across the internet. Jessica Yaniv wanted to get her body hair waxed, including a full Brazilian, and for Yaniv that means all around the penis and balls. Yaniv

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Facebook, Dick Pics, and Being a Female Professional Writer Online.

I’m a writer by profession. I write novels, scripts and blogs, and it’s how I make a living. To make a living, people need to know I exist or they won’t read, buy or invest in any of the work I do. And to let people know I exist, I depend heavily on a social media presence. Through Facebook, Twitter

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Why nothing makes me feel less liberal than the concept of “kink shaming”.

I’ve always considered myself a lefty liberal. I have gone through life hating judgmental people and embracing the move towards a progressive and accepting society. We should all be free to be true to ourselves, to love who we love, and accept everyone for their truth. And I do feel we should be proud of what we’ve achieved. I still

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I’m against gender neutral public toilets, and this is why.

The introduction of gender neutral facilities, including toilets and changing rooms, is becoming a staple display of progressive liberalism in 2019. If you want to be woke, do away with sex segregation and stick a “We don’t care” sign on your toilet door. As being progressive and inclusive and “woke” is what we are all supposed to be these days,

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What is gender neutral parenting, and why would you do it?

I am raising my children to be “gender neutral”. This is a concept that is often widely scorned, and I think I understand why, but I also think it’s a misunderstanding. I’m not raising my children to be neither a boy nor a girl, I’m raising my children to be who they are regardless of whether they’re a boy or